One of our closing thoughts last time taught us that the mind has a mind of its own. Individuals can choose to remember or choose to block out the memory of things depending on the value or lack of value of that thought.
Often thoughts are buried deeply during difficult episodes in life. They remain inside and fester and grow. Of course, we try to blot them from our memory, but we are unable to do so.
Undesirable incidents and conversations we retain in our memories I label as junk in our trunk.
It is through this stored junk we process our current thoughts and feelings. It is through this process we either act or re-act. Thus we transfer our unresolved anger and resentments to others.
It was noted in the preceding article we store our feelings in seven primary categories: father, mother, family members, childhood experiences, marriage (ours or marriage in general), school or job, and God.
Some hesitate to list their resentments against God, but be realistic, He already knows what they are, and who do you think will be the first one to forgive you? God.
How can we break this cycle? We must rid ourselves of the junk in our trunk.
How?
Through prompting and/or provocation, that is, writing a list of all the incidents you can recall in the seven areas noted above. Of course, keep the list to yourself.
I have yet to see a counselee who did not recall one or more things they had buried so deeply in their sub-conscious they no longer carried the incident in the conscious sphere of their brain. It has been a freeing experience for all who have applied this approach,
The above fact launches my next remark which sets the stage for accomplishing the feat of leading people to free themselves from any hold buried memories have upon them.
Next time: What is on the inside of you makes the difference in what you hear.
